Tension can find its way into the best of friendships. What might be an otherwise fun, supportive friendship can become unexpectedly complicated when it comes to parenting techniques. You and your friend both love and adore your kids, but the similarities in how you raise them may end there.
Natural birth, epidural, or Cesarean birth? Will you nurse your baby or use formula? Will you vaccinate traditionally or stagger and delay? The answers can be surprisingly divisive! These decisions are tough and intensely personal. They’re the kind of decisions that take a lot of thought to come to a right conclusion for you and your child.
But what if your best girlfriend had a C-section and you’re pretty sure you want a home birth? Will you offend her with your decision? Can you even talk with her about it?
Where do we go and with whom do we talk about these questions that need answering? I know where I go: the Internet. I go to the walls of cyberspace to bounce around my thoughts and questions–much to my husband’s dismay. (It seems the Internet can also make this mama a tad fearful of worst-case-scenarios.)
Fit Pregnancy magazine‘s June/July 2010 issue seeks to address the tensions with its article “War of the Words.” It seems there’s another war going on out there besides the one on terror. “Mommy wars” were being fought long before the Internet came along. However, according to Fit Pregnancy, the Internet–specifically “mommy blogs”–have ignited anonymous battles.
On mommy blogs, women can comment on other moms’ parenting without any accountability. I can only speak for my own experience when I say that I never go to blogs looking to start an argument. On the contrary, I’m looking to calm my own insecurities. “War of the Words” says that most women, especially pregnant and new moms, are looking to blogs for that same reason. We all have questions that are personal and sometimes even intimate. We might not feel confident talking with a friend or even the doctor. A faceless stranger on the Internet, however, can sometimes do the trick.
The Fit Pregnancy article encourages new moms to venture out onto blogs but to stay away from the ones that are too one-sided or opinionated. It seems obvious, but the magazine suggests finding mommy blogs that are akin to what you believe your parenting style to be. As with anything in parenting, there needs to be a balance.
So, do you boldly go where other moms have gone before… the world of mommy blogs? If so, what are your favorite blogs?